Have you ever noticed that answers and solutions come to you at the seemingly weirdest moments...those moments when you really aren't focused on the problem?

There is actual science behind this. When we are focused externally, looking at the task at hand we are focusing using our Task Positive Network (TPN) of our brain. This has a tendency to create stressful feelings, which will activate the sympathetic nervous system. It is much harder to see solutions when we are in a stressful state.

There is a time, a place and a need for this Task Positive Network. The Task Positive mode is then the best network to actually carry out the solutions once we arrive at them. The challenge however, is that when we are in this stressful feeling Task Positive Mode, we have more difficulty seeing the big picture and working together to create solutions. When we play, we engage the creative side of our brain which can open our mind and our eyes to creative solutions.

So, not only is play fun, it helps our brain by creating feel-good hormones, it helps our energy, our sense of connection and youthfulness AND in the context of problem solving and work, play is a great catalyst to generate creative solutions.

Next time you are working on finding creative solutions to a challenge: Take a Break and Play.

➡️DM me if you are interested in learning more about how this approach can help your organization get results.

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The other day a friend and I were talking about love and compassion. She brought up a saying she had heard that said: Everything is either an Act of Love or Asking for Love.

If we stop and think about all of our behaviors and apply this, we can see that in all we do, we are either showing love or asking for love.

We were discussing the concept that hurt people hurt people...I'm not saying this means that we have to accept it and allow people to hurt us. I AM saying that if we recognize that when a person does something that seems mean or hurtful, we can stop and see that maybe they are asking for love. Maybe not from us specifically, maybe from themselves.

I wonder sometimes how hard it must be to go through life without loving yourself. When I think of that, I can't help but offer compassion and grace to those in pain. Sometimes we just need to change our perspective.

I will never stop reminding us: We can't heal hate with hate, judgement or intolerance. We can heal hate with LOVE and COMPASSION.

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Identity (noun): Sameness of essential or generic character in different instances

You can't give it away if you don't own it...

I like to reference this when I'm talking to people about insecurities and limiting beliefs. Don't own the belief...

When we find ourselves thinking that we aren't good enough...When we are questioning our ability and limiting our experiences, we can ask ourselves: Who are we when we are thinking this way? What are we identifying with? How are we limiting ourselves?

Then we can ask ourselves if there is a time when we are not that? If so, how can we apply what we identify with in other situations to this situation? From there we can draw on those resources to determine what we can change in our behaviors, our beliefs and how we look at ourselves to be that now.

When we let go of an identity that isn't serving us, we can look at our internal resources and our capabilities to choose a new identity in that situation that will allow us to believe in ourselves and achieve what we want.

I know someone that says they just aren't nurturing with their employees, that's not who they are. They are a self proclaimed asshole. The question then is: are there other times when you are supportive or nurturing? When you aren't an asshole? With who? How does it look?

Once you identify that, you can recognize that this is situational and it isn't who you are, it's just how you are showing up in that context. Then if you want to change, you know you can!

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Start with Gratitude...Always...

Gratitude (noun): the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Often people ask me: "When you are having a hard time finding a positive mindset, where do you start?" My answer is always: Gratitude.

When we are in state of gratitude, we are aware of things in which we are thankful for. When we recognize that we have things to be thankful for, we cannot at the same time be focused on what we are lacking or don't have or regret.

I refer to this like facing forward or facing backward: a person can't do them both at them same time. So imagine that having gratitude is like facing forward...Imagine where we can go now, what we can enjoy and what we can achieve when we are operating from a 'readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness' now!

Today's Tip: Start with the small things.

~ How clean your teeth feel after you brush them
~ How warm the water is in the shower
~ How refreshing the cold water is
~ How nice the floor feels under your feet as you are getting ready
~ That you have a job to go to in the morning
~ That you have a flexible schedule because you don't have a job
~ That today is a new day

The other day the hot water was not working in my house. One thing I wrote that I was grateful for that day was Hot Water...not because I had it that day (I didn't) but because all the rest of the days this year I did, and that is something to be grateful for.

In those moments when things aren't working, be grateful for all the rest of the times when they are!

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Judgement (noun): The process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing

To judge is a natural and necessary process. We are fortunate that we have a mind so powerful that in a matter of seconds, at an unconscious level, we can quickly form an opinion. This is a process of our unconscious mind to keep us safe. For us to quickly be able to judge a situation and ensure we are safe, is amazing.

There are times though where our judgement may not serve us well. We are not able to consciously process the 11 million bits per second of information that we are taking in through our five senses. Our brain goes through a process of filtering our information, deleting, distorting and generalizing everything through filters of our prior experiences. So if we understand that we are really only consciously aware of 5-10% of information we have been exposed to, it would make sense to ask if the judgement is truly serving us well.

When we judge other people, we are not really judging them, we are actually judging what their behavior means to us if we were the ones behaving that way.

We don't know all the details of anyone else's story, so we really don't know what their behavior means...I love this and find it so empowering because this means we can choose for it to mean anything we want that will serve us to be our best self. We can choose compassion, love, empathy or curiosity instead.
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at·ti·tude - noun - a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior.

Imagine the freedom to choose a positive attitude!

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When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone to try something new or to achieve something?

It is not always easy to do and we can all find 'all the reasons' why we shouldn't or can't. Take the "n't" off the end of these words and we will see all the possibilities.

When we find ourselves in those moments where we are turning away from opportunities because it feels uncomfortable, we need to remember the 'why'. We need to remember what is important to us. We need to remember that we have succeeded in so many ways just to get where we are standing today. We need to remember all the times we did something that wasn't comfortable and remind ourselves of the growth and the empowerment we feel when we step past the known.

We need to remember that we have everything we need inside us to achieve whatever we want. We need to trust ourselves.

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When we recognize that perception is projection we can then realize that our internal self-talk determines how we view the world.

Two people can be standing next to each other, looking at the exact same view and still have two completely different descriptions of the experience, of what they are seeing and the emotions they are feeling.

How we talk to ourselves; negatively or positively is reflected back to us in everything we see and experience. If we are coming from a place of fear, anger, sadness or hurt, what we see is going to look a lot different than it will from the person standing next to us that is coming from a place of love, gratitude, forgiveness and compassion.

How we view the world starts with how we view ourselves.

Being kind and loving to ourselves is the greatest gift we can give to the world. It will show through in our behavior and all of our interactions with others.

Normalize Compassion <3

Tip: Start and finish everyday with gratitude. Find 3+ things to be grateful every morning before you get out of bed. When you go to bed at night, find 3+ things to be grateful for and one thing you are looking forward to tomorrow.

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"As long as you're green, you're growing. As soon as you're ripe, you start to rot." ~ Ray Kroc

When it comes to nourishment and nurturing our health, it is important to be ever green; to make learning and self-improvement a lifetime journey, not a destination. We know that the only thing constant in life is change. To adapt to that change, we need to learn how to cope with the change. We need to be green...

How do you nurture your learning? What was the last book or course you took?
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The only limitations are the ones we choose to believe.

Remember when we were children and we believed in invisible friends, we believed we could be rock stars, movie stars, astronauts, writers, teachers, world travelers, artists, veterinarians, the first female to win a Nascar race?...(ok, maybe that last one was just me...lol)

My point is: What did you dream of doing and are you doing it? Chances are you aren't. Less than 35% of American children follow their dreams as adults. My question is: What stopped you?

Probably the same thing that stops most of us from:

💔Speaking in public, or even in front of ten people
💔Going to that event by our self
💔Asking for a promotion
💔Talking to someone we are interested in
💔Buying our self something nice
💔Allowing our self to take time to for self-care
💔Asking for help
💔Celebrating our wins

What stops us are Limiting Decisions.

Somewhere along the way we saw something or were told something that we internalized to mean that we "should not" or "we can't" do something or we "would not" be good, or we "aren't enough".

So, I ask you now: When did you decide that?

Because you can choose to decide something new and empowering, now.

To quote Henry Ford: "Whether you think you can or you can't, you are right."
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Hope you are making time to enjoy the journey.

Remember, it is not about the destination, it's about the journey: the relationships, the growth, the purpose, the joy.

It's not about what you get, it's about what you give that makes life so fulfilling.

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Without purpose, we are just going through the motions. Often we will find ourselves in situations wondering how in the hell we got there and angry at where we are at or resentful about where we aren't.

When we live our lives based on another person's purpose or other people's "shoulds", or other people's beliefs of what is best for us, we miss out on finding what is IMPORTANT TO US.

And hopefully one day we will get uncomfortable enough to wake up and wonder where the last 10 years went and recognize that we can make change now, we can do things differently, now we can find our own purpose and meaning in life.

When we uncover our purpose and meaning, we find the strength to let go of behaviors that have been holding us back.

Purpose and meaning are like the GPS navigation guide to HAPPINESS and FULFILLMENT

Are you living your purpose?

Don't know where or how to start?
Start right where you are at, now...DM me - I'm here for you✨

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"The self-realized spirit is merely a spirit emancipated from fear, judgement and knowing." ~ Bryant McGill

Have you ever watched someone else enjoying life and wished you could be as free? Do you hold yourself back, do you dim your light because you are worried others will judge you? That you'll look silly?

What do we choose to miss out on in life because we are too concerned with what someone else may think?

Why do we even care if someone thinks we look silly? Wouldn't you rather look silly and enjoy your life than be the one in the back watching everyone else have fun?

Someone said to me today "Dance like no one is watching" and that shook me. I've always felt like I have no rhythm...and it has been confirmed...and who cares? I want to be like Steve Martin in The Jerk...I don't care if I look silly. I am more interested in allowing myself the freedom to have fun than I am of someone else's opinion of me...and besides, if they are busy judging my poor dancing that is sad for them, because they must not be dancing themselves.
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"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself." ~Wayne Dyer

Swiss psychologist Carl Jung introduced this concept of perception is projection, which means that in order to see something in someone else, it must exist inside us. Imagine, if we did not know what is was like to be happy, how could we know that anyone else was happy, or sad for that matter?

As we understand this concept of perception is projection, we can then see that how we judge another person has very little to do them and everything to do with us. We are only making judgements based on our perception of the person and their behavior, which is never the reality of the person or the intent behind the behavior.

We have all heard the saying about when you point one finger at someone, there are three more fingers pointing back at you...

Today's Tip:
Next time you find yourself judging someone else's behavior in a negative way, ask yourself what this means in relation to you? What does that say about you? Are you projecting your insecurity onto their behavior?

Awareness is the first step to change...

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I once heard that anxiety is the unconscious mind's way of letting us know we are not focusing on WHAT WE WANT.

That hit me...

Think about the last time you felt anxious: Were you visualizing the situation turning out with the best possible outcome? Or were you worried and imagining all the things that could go wrong and all the depleting emotions that went along with that?

When we focus on WHAT WE WANT, there is no anxiety because we are visualizing a positive outcome. When we do this, we tell our unconscious mind what we want to achieve and it will help us achieve our goals. It does this because it likes all of the feel good brain chemicals that are produced when we think about the positive outcome...We give it a taste of how good it will feel when we achieve our best outcome by visualizing the goal and our unconscious mind becomes hungry for more and will help us achieve it.

Today's Tip:
Next time a feeling of anxiousness bubbles up, STOP and ask yourself: What Do I Want?

STOP focusing on what you don't want and focus on what you want. Say it the way you want it. Visualize the best outcome through your eyes as if you achieved it, feel all the feels and notice that the anxiousness is not there.
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"We can't heal the world today but we can begin with a voice of compassion, a heart of love, an act of kindness." ~ Mary Davis

We are living in a time of ultra criticism and judgement. It seems that there is a bit of a divide in beliefs that has created a 'Them' vs. 'Us' mentality, with little tolerance for 'Them'...in any situation, whichever side of a belief that you are on. As a society, we seem to be losing our capacity to be curious and compassionate, replacing this with judgment and contempt.

When we have this type of thinking, we are closing ourselves off to the situations and perhaps the suffering that helped form beliefs in 'Them'. It is a tendency to jump straight to judgement because we are filtering their beliefs and behavior through our filters...our experiences and perhaps our suffering. We decide that we know what their beliefs mean, because we know what they mean to us.

In truth, we have no clue why anyone believes or does what they do. What we need to recognize, is that there is always an intention of good in anyone's actions and behavior, based on their beliefs and upbringing.

Suppose we stop judging and imagine their story, their pain, their upbringing that could have created their beliefs. We don't have to accept them as our own, we just need to stop judging...we have never stood in their shoes.

I will never stop reminding us: We can't heal hate with hate, judgement or intolerance. We can heal hate with LOVE and COMPASSION.

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Awakening: The act of awaking, or ceasing to sleep

It is not a mid-life 'crisis' - It is my mid-life 'Awakening'...and it feels fabulous!

Remember: There is no growth in comfort. I dare you to embrace the turbulence and ride out the change...see where it takes you...be curious.

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If we understand that perception is projection, we can understand that we really never see someone for who they truly are, because we are always seeing them through our filters of how we define situations, behaviors & life.

The essence of this, is that we see what we want in people based on what is inside of us.

The beauty of this is that when we see someone that is radiant and uplifting, we can know that we see that in them because it exists in us.

So the next time you find yourself admiring someone's bravery, compassion, resilience, radiance...anything...know that you see that in them because it is in you...and then take a moment to recognize that in yourself...appreciate yourself the way you appreciate that person you were admiring.

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