We cannot teach people lessons or generate change by exhibiting the same behavior or energy that we want to change.

Imagine driving down the freeway and you see someone driving erratically and it upsets you. You decide this person is an a$$hole and someone needs to let them know not to drive like that, so you honk at them to let them know to stop driving like that...

1) How do you know why they are driving like that? They could be racing to the emergency afraid they are about to lose a loved one...

2) Suppose they are stressed, angry etc.; do you really think honking at them will calm them down so they stop the behavior? Or perhaps could it make them worse?

3) How does it make you feel when you act back with the aggression of honking at them; 'telling them'?

The thing is that we don't know other people's stories and we don't know how they will react to our behavior, so what is the point? And honestly, horns are to prevent an immediate accident, not to tell someone to stop being an a$$hole.

Considering all of that with the reality that in 'telling them', we get worked up, angry, judgmental and act self-righteous, so what are we really giving back to the world; more anger?

If we want to change the world, people's seeming aggression, hate and anger, we can only do that with love and compassion...and it starts with ourselves.

In moments like the above, I choose not to get angry and self-righteous. Instead, I choose compassion and move out of the person's way, wishing them safety.

What will you choose today as we look at all of the challenges our world is facing? Will you be angry back or will you be an example and inspiration of compassion and love?

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To be positive, to feel joy must come from within. There is no external trigger that will give us a true sense of joy and positivity. In this, we can say it is a choice.

What we need to remember is that we have to allow ourselves to be present in the moment to make the choice to feel joy and to be positive. When we are stuck in the past or worried about the future, we are not present and this makes it difficult to choose to feel joy in the present moment.

When we encounter people that seem negative, we can give them grace and compassion, knowing it is not a conscious choice.

How do you remind yourself to be present, to choose joy?

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"As long as we define ourselves in terms of our pain and our problems, we will never be free from them." ~ Eckhart Tolle

Have you heard the saying 'You are what you think'? This saying is very real in the sense that our unconscious mind listens to what we say and think to ourselves and takes it as directions to prove us right.

When we recognize that our unconscious mind will prove us right in whatever we are thinking; good or bad, we can recognize the importance of thinking about and identifying ourselves with what we want and who we want to be.

When we identify with what we don't want and focus on the pain and problems we have, our unconscious mind will take this as direction to continue to prove us right. It will find ways to bring our attention to and continually remind us of these things we don't want.

So today, ask yourself instead: What do I want? and state it in the positive. Instead of saying: 'I don't want to be sick', say: 'I want to be healthy.'

What is it you want? Focus on that, knowing that everyday you focus on what you want, you are moving closer to it.

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Thrive (verb): prosper; flourish

Life is a journey. We have all heard this saying, but what does it really mean and how do we embrace this?

Sometimes we feel like it takes everything in us to get through today. Sometimes we focus on just getting past something...wishing the time passes quickly. How many times have you heard yourself or someone else say "I can't wait for this to be over..." or "Once I get past this..."?

When we focus on the end result only, we miss all of the lessons, small joys and growth that can be found in between. We are literally throwing away our time, which is limited and the one thing we will never be able to make more of or replace.

When we look at all of the studies of people's greatest regrets when they are faced with terminal illnesses, some of the top ones are that they wish they would have enjoyed life more, spent time with loved ones, not worked as much, followed their passion...

Even in accomplishing something important to us, if we are only focused on the goal, it is easy to miss the lessons, the small joys and the growth that is there to enjoy along the way.

How do you define thrive for you?

How are you growing?

What is your passion?

How are living this a little bit every day?

When we live passionately and nurture growth, it is then that we are embracing the journey. Life is not something to just get past. Life is to live!

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Do you ever find yourself planning on beginning something? Waiting for the right time to start? The beginning of the week...after that celebration coming up...after that vacation...after that promotion...when you get that car you want...when you lose those extra 10 pounds?

The thing is, there will always be something else keeping us from beginning unless we decide to begin right where we are. If we start today and in three days from now, we have a set back or something that comes up, we must remember, it was only for that moment.

Life is made up of a multitude of moments. In each moment, we have the opportunity to make a new decision. If a person falls down in the mud and gets dirty, they will not stop bathing or washing their clothes just because they got dirty in that moment...The decision we make in the last moment does not have to dictate the remainder of our decisions.

There is no "right" time to start anything. The "right time" IS when you decide to Start. It is when you choose to honor yourself and the change you desire and Start Doing.

As we enter the third week of the new year, I want to encourage anyone that wants to make change in your life; big or small: Start Now. Start Doing. Even if it is just a little bit. The law of motion dictates that once something is in motion, it takes an opposing force that is even stronger to stop the movement.

Whether you are reading this in January, or mid-summer, know that the time to Start is Now; Right Where You Are. If you have a misstep, if you get side tracked, that is okay. Give yourself grace.

Just get clear on what you want and remember that Every Moment is a Chance to Begin Again.

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Habit (noun): An acquired mode of behavior that has become nearly or completely involuntary

Many people look at the New Year as a starting point; a clean break from the past, to start doing and being what they aspire towards.

Studies have shown that only 8-10% of people actually follow through with their New Year's Resolutions.

Is this because creating new behaviors and habits is hard? Does it have to be hard?

I do not believe that it has to be hard. And we need to remember, if we believe that it has to be hard or that it can be easy, it will be whatever we believe it will be. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy, since our unconscious mind loves taking instructions and will prove us right.

Sometimes to figure out how to create a habit, we have to start with why we aren't doing it in the first place.

There are so many things we know we 'should' do, yet we don't.

If we start by identifying how we are NOT doing them, then we can recreate the strategy to figure out how to do them going forward. Once we replace our old strategy with the new one, we can easily form new habits, and the more we do them the easier they get, until it becomes nearly involuntary.

I am sooo looking forward to working with you on Becoming Limitless in 2022!

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Grace (noun): A disposition to kindness and compassion.

There are many forms of grace. Self-grace is one of the most freeing types of grace we can find. When we treat ourselves with kindness and compassion, rather than regret, judgement and shame, we can open ourselves to the lessons, and allow for growth and love.

When we give ourselves grace, it is so much easier to give to others. In this season of the year, with all of the challenges we have all faced over the pandemic, I invite everyone to find a little grace. It is one of the best gifts we can give to ourselves and others.

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We are intrinsically giving beings. When we look at children and how quickly they will give to others to alleviate pain or sadness, by offering their toys or blanket, or perhaps just a hug, we can see that this is a natural part of being human.

The act of giving releases a cocktail of feel good chemicals in our brain, like serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin. According to studies, the person doing the giving actually has a higher response of feel good chemicals in the brain than the person receiving.

When I was in elementary school, each holiday season my school had Santa's Gift Shop. Every year, my mom would give me $10 or $20 to buy gifts for my friends and family. I can still remember how excited I was to pick out a gift for each person. I would wait in anticipation to give them out. I can still recall the excitement and sheer joy I would feel leading up to the moment the person opened the gift. It feels good to do nice things for others.

Can you remember a time that you felt so good doing something for someone else?

When we are feeling down, rather than resorting to retail therapy, which we may regret if our budget won't really support it, maybe we should try thinking of others instead. We can choose to do something nice for someone else. That is a sure fire way to feel better and it doesn't need to cost a thing!

What are ways you do nice things for others that won't break the bank? Please share your ideas.

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Success: The attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.

If we were to accept the concept of the law of attraction, we would understand that the mere act of aiming for success is actually giving power to it's lack of existence in our life. When we aim for something, we are saying that we are lacking that thing we aim for, which, based on the law of attraction would mean that we are not attracting the success we want, rather we are attracting more lack of success.

If instead, we focus on doing things that we love, that we believe in, we will be attracting more of that, which will automatically lead to success.

To achieve more of what we want in our lives, we can start by recognizing and being grateful for what we have that we want more of. Celebrate the wins, big or small.

When we celebrate more, we will have more to celebrate. And it's easy to celebrate when we are doing things we love and believe in.

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"You don't learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over." ~ Richard Branson

I remember when I was a teenager my first car was a manual (stick shift). The only problem with this at the time was that I had no clue how to drive it. I was taught to drive an automatic. For months, I was driving my mom's mini van and she drove my car. One afternoon, I was starving and really wanted a burger. The only problem was that the only car at the house was mine, which I didn't really know how to drive. I had been given one lesson and my dad had explained the math behind the mechanics to me. Needless to say, it was very intimidating...but at that moment, my craving for a burger was much stronger than my fear of stalling the car.

I figured the best way to learn was to do. So I got in the car and drove up the street, even through the drive through (huge apologies to whoever was stuck behind me the two times I stalled the car). In the end, I made it home, stalling the car for a grand total of four times, which seemed an insignificant amount of humiliation to satisfy a burger craving. I had also learned how to drive my car! From that day forward, I never had to be the dorky teenager in the mom-mobile...sometimes you just have to want it bad enough to start where you are. Step out of your comfort zone and go for it.

Sometimes we forget that we have had many successes that started with fear, intimidation, failure and ultimately we made it past all of that and were successful.

I invite you to remember a time when you pushed your way past all of the obstacles and succeeded; big or small...Celebrate that success today, right now, knowing that you know how to learn by doing and that falling down is just part of the learning process. The key is to get back up.

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"You must try to generate happiness within yourself. If you aren't happy in one place, chances are you won't be happy anyplace." ~ Ernie Banks

Happiness is an emotional state; a state of mind. As some say, it is a vibration. Whichever way we look at it, happiness is not somewhere we arrive at and stay; it is a journey. It is a choice. If we choose happiness, we will find more reasons to be happy. This is the same for when we don't choose happiness and instead stay in a state of dissatisfaction. If we are not satisfied or content with life, then we will find more reasons to not be content. It can be a vicious downward spiral, or an upward momentum that keeps lifting us up. It is our choice.

Happiness is not something earned, it is something we allow. To achieve happiness, we must allow ourselves to be. We must allow ourselves to be present, to be content with what we have right now; to enjoy the moment.

If this sounds like a daunting task, and you hear your inner critic saying it's just not that easy: START WITH GRATITUDE. Choose three things that you are grateful for every morning. Allow yourself to feel the positive emotions of those things you are grateful for. Live in that gratitude for a minute or two on each item you are grateful for.

When we start our day like this, our unconscious mind will find more things to be grateful for. The more grateful we are for things in our life, the easier it is to feel content; to be happy.

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Many of us try very hard to control life. We try to control situations, people and outcomes. The truth is that we can attempt to influence the situation, however we can't control it.

When we allow ourselves to focus on flexibility, we can adjust our approach to more easily influence and achieve our results.

In any communication, the person with the most flexible approach will be the most successful. If we only have one way of asking for help, proving a point, motivating another or just saying what is on our mind, we risk that the person will not hear what we are trying to say in the way that we are meaning to say it.

As we know, each person has their own lens that they view life from and that determines how they interpret what we are saying. So, the person that is able to rephrase, change their approach and adapt, will be more likely to succeed.

Have you ever tried to teach a child something using a word they didn't understand? Maybe you try repeating it and they still don't get it. You say it louder and they still don't get it. When you use different words that they understand or perhaps demonstrate physically, then they finally understand.

Saying the same thing over and over will not get the results. Saying the same thing louder and louder will not get the result. Finding a different way to say it, or demonstrate it is the fastest way to results.

If you don't like the results you are getting: change your approach.

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